YOU'RE OUT

I’m really not that into baseball, but I’m going to use this analogy just to try and get my point across. I don’t know when or where it started, but we use the bases in baseball to determine how far we have advanced with a sexual partner. For example… 1st base (French kiss), and sex is consider a home run (SCORE). I’ll be honest most of us don’t give a damn about any other base but the home plate. We would rather step up to the plate and “Knock it out the Park” every time. The ultimate goal is to score, but if we have to round the bases one base at a time so be it.
Fella “bear with me” I’m only putting our business out there because there seems to be an ongoing problem with the ladies letting you all round 3rd base only to tag you out before you slide into home plate. Oh yeah! Noticed I said “letting you all round 3rd base” I consider myself old and retired….lol
Ladies I know you sitting back laughing, but this sh!t ain’t cool. You girls are building up a brotha’s excitement only to let us done in the end. I need you to understand we don’t let down that easy it takes hours (sometimes it has a mind of its own if you know what I mean). I still don’t think you understand what I am talking about so here is something I heard on the” FoxxHole Radio” XM 149 it’s the BEE KNEES… Maaaaaaan I be in the car laughing my assss off! OK ok I digressed (Get focus C. Hen).
Ladies pictures this… You and your man enter one of those fancy malls you know the ones with Bloomingdales, Coach, Louis Vuitton, Tiffany’s…etc. Anyways! Your man is taking you on an all-expense paid shopping spree, and you get to pick up any and everything you want. The conversation goes something like this:
You: Babe I want three Coach Purses.
Him: Dang Boo! Usually I buy my girls assistant Coaches, because they run a lil cheaper. But today go ahead grab’um.
You: Uuh babe I got get this Tiffany’s necklaces and I want 2 Tennis Bracelets.
Him: The necklace is cool, but I ain’t even know you played Tennis… Hell! I don’t even see you power walking, but today go grab’um…
Now you and your man headed to the register you all smiling and cheesing. The cashier rings everything up and right before she places it in the bag he yells “NOW PUT IT ALL BACK”! That’s Fu@ked up! You right it is Fu@ked up, but that’s exactly how we feel.
Ladies I’m not saying there’s something wrong with holding out. It’s belongs to you, so you can do with it what you see fit. I do know most of you know if he is going to hit that Home Run before the date is over. So all I’m saying is if it’s not going to happen just do him a favor and tag him out when he tries to still 2nd base.
These are JUST MY THOUGHTS. What do you think?

RENTAL CAR WEEKEND/LOVING

How does the saying go “People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime?” Well I want to add a weekend to that. Sometimes it takes a while to determine if a person has come into, your life for a Reason, Season or Lifetime, but a Weekend is perfect as long as both people understand their roll and know that it’s a weekend rendezvous. Personally I think a Weekend Lover is extremely necessary, but I also understand it’s not for everyone. This is for those people who may not be ready to start or restart a relationship, but they still have a need for companionship. Who’s to say a WEEKEND couldn’t develop into a SEASON or LIFETIME… Hell we are consenting adults so we really don’t need a REASON.
Let me go a little deeper into this Weekend loving thing. For most people a weekend begins on Friday and ends on Sunday (about 2 full days of time), but my definition of a weekend is broken down a little bit different. This is where the rental car theory comes into effect. A rental car weekend begins at 12 noon on Thursday and end at 12 noon on Monday which gives you approximately 4 days of quality time. I know... I know you still don’t understand what a rental car has to do with all of this. So let’s go deeper. When you rent a rental car it doesn’t technically belong to you. Though you are obligated to take care of it you still have a tendency to drive it a little harder and a little longer. While a weekend rendezvous should be setup exactly the same. The person your with doesn’t technically belong to you, but you are still obligated to take care of her/him. So if you are fortunate enough to be the chosen one you should go a little harder a little stronger and a little longer. You goal should be to push him/her to their limit. Don’t get me wrong when the question was asked people do enjoy “Love Making”, but they also enjoy being pushed to the limits. If you follow the Rental Car Weekend you should have plenty of time for both. I’m really not trying to make you feel cheap I’m just trying to find ways to make you happy… But hey to each it own. Y’all know how this ends… These are JUST MY THOUGHTS. What do you think?

MY PRAYER

It’s me again Lord….First I would like to say thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to speak to me once again. Lord I promise this time this won’t be a vent session. I just wanted to take a little time and reflect on the last few years of my life. Lord I know that every situation in my life has been something I’ve either benefited or learned from, but like most people I still ask the question WHY? I don’t ask you WHY because things are going bad, but because regardless of what I have done you have continued to bless me.
Yeah there has been something that haven’t always gone my way like for instants my divorce… Lord you know I worked really hard at my marriage and I really was a great husband (Lightning Strike and a loud roar of thunder) Ok OK OK… gosh I wasn’t the best, but I did learn a lot from it I’m sure I’m a better person because of it. Plus you blessed me with a wonderful son, so once again I want complain.
As I reflect back on the last few years there may have been a few people I have hurt or mislead along the way. I need you to tell them to get over it..lol (Lightning strikes and the powers goes out)….. JESUS!...... JESUS……….. JESUS! You just gone cut off my lights…. Come on you know I was playing, I know you know my heart….(Lights came back on) Thank You! Now like I was saying please let them know that I am sorry, and I hope they can find it in their hearts to forgive me. It was never my intentions to mislead anyone. It’s just that I have really been so focused on trying to be happily single that I haven’t given anyone a fair opportunity to add to my happiness. Sometimes I have a hard time expressing myself so I will just say a few words from R. Kelly.....
Father I’m so weak, (I WILL BE YOUR STRENGH)
and in my heart there is no peace (YOU CAN FIND ALL THAT IN ME).
I’ve got the weight of the world its feels like a million ton (JUST KNOW MY HANDS ARE WITH YOU SON)
Father I am so confused and I don’t what to do (GO DOWN ON YOUR KNEES AND LEFT YOUR HAND TO ME IF YOU’RE READING THIS LEFT YOUR HANDS UP WITH US PLEASE. NOW WITH A LITTLE FAITH ABOUT THE SIZE OF A MUSTARD SEED DO YOU BELIEVE)………………Yes I do believe ….(THEN STAND UP AND CLAIM VICTORY)
Ok now that I have that off my chest I can get back to business…..

FILE CABINET!!!

Years ago I started separating people and placing them in the files they belong in. At the time I really didn’t know I was creating personal files, but now that I know I have decided to categorize them into 3 groups.
Active File: People I still chill with from time to time for whatever reason…..
Inactive Reserve File: People who have moved on with their lives (Married, Dating, or Just wanted more than I was willing to give)…. But I keep the window open for a easy return.
Deactivated: People I just don’t fu@k with anymore for whatever reason. …

So here is the problem at hand…. I have a issue with letting people go, I make excuse for myself by say “I’m this way because I don’t like burning bridges, because I never know when I going to have to cross that bridge again”, but I really think it because I’m arrogant and selfish. I used the word arrogant not because I’m conceited or vain, but because I’m extremely confident that I will get another chance. I use the would selfish because like all men we have learned this unwritten rule that states whatever woman deal with us; belongs to us and there’s no way she can be happy with anyone else….. Is this rule really true hell naw, but you can’t make me think any other way. This small problem is the reason why my INACTIVE RESERVE FILE is overflowing. I have never had a problem with my ACTIVE FILES or my DEACTIVATED FILES. Everyone in my INACTIVE RESERVE FILES brought something to the table, something that caught my attention which is why they were in my ACTIVE FILES at some point.
I think what I really need to do is re-evaluate the way my files are setup and build another file in that cabinet which reads PLATONIC FILES… Damn!! Never mind I’m still questioning can Men and Women truly be just friends…. (Which was a “Note” on my facebook page a while back)? TO BE CONTINUED……..
Everyone has some type of filing cabinet, but the issue is how accurate are the files inside. These are JUST MY THOUGHTS what do you think?

You Ain't Shit

I was playing Taboo on New Year’s Eve when a funny argument broke out because one of my teammates tried to cheat by whispering the answer. A member of the female team used this incident to let go of some built up frustration. She began her vent session by saying “all black men are cheating no good dogs, and they can not be trusted”. I started to laugh because I’m wondering how in the hell did cheating at a game of Taboo lead to her blowing up like this. Y’all know I like to keep sh!t going especially when I know it’s pissing someone off so I decided to keep listening. She said “I can look at a man and tell whether or not he is a cheater”. That was funny as hell because when she said that most of the dudes start coughing Bu!!sh!t under their breath. I was really starting to get curious, so I ask her, “Am I cheater?". She says, “Where are you from?" Obviously I said Florida. That was her boiling point, because she blew up and said.."Hell yeah you are a cheater… my last two boyfriends are from Florida and they some cheating dogs too." Now I’m like, “Too?! What do you mean too? You can't label an entire state off your experiences with two dudes."
Now the whole time she going through this vent session I’m just assuming she is just a bitter chick, and if she has continuously been cheated on then maybe she had a right to be bitter. So now she is doing the hand waving thing that most angry women do, and I notice a wedding band on her finger…WTF. I asked her if she was married and she said “for almost 4 years." Now you know my next question… So when these two guys from Florida cheated on you were you married? This chick had the gall say, “They were married too.”, as if that made it a fair playing field.. I guess I will just put it out there. If you’re wondering why you keep attracting those so called NO GOOD MEN who ain’t SH!T…. It’s probably because YOU AIN’T SH!T… I’m not trying to be mean and maybe this is a little harsh, these are JUST MY THOUGHTS. What do you think?

PART-TIME LOVERS

I was listening to my Ipod and an old song from H-town “Part-time Lover” came on (I really think I’m showing my age with this one, because a lot of you don’t have a clue who H-town is). Anyways this song reminded me of one of my favorite analogies about part-time lovers.
As I sit here and read the status update of most of my fellow Facebookers I see that most of you have a hump day and you really look forward to weekends. Image this you’re sitting at your desk, cubical, classroom, or hell even behind the counter and your boss comes in and says this…. “You have been extremely productive here at our company and we value you as an employee. We have been hearing rumors that you were unpleased with your current work scheduled and we would like to reduce your hours. Hold on Mr./Mrs./Ms. (Your Name) please stop cursing and throwing things… You’re taking this the wrong way let me explain what I’m offering you… I’m prepared to let you work part-time here, but willing to pay you your fulltime salary… I would like for you to take the rest of the day off and return tomorrow with your answer.” Most of you wouldn’t even need 30 seconds to make that decision, and I’m sure 100% you take him up on that offer. Now that you’ve heard my little scenario let’s see if we can tie this into today blog topic.
If a person can receive fulltime lover’s benefits for part-time lover’s services why would they ever want a fulltime position again? One of the biggest mistakes made during the beginning stages of a relationship is giving someone fulltime benefits when they’re really only doing part-time work. It’s ok to give them a little snack during they’re part- time shift… but just use that as an incentive to push them to work a little hard to become your full time employee. The problem is some people can’t differentiate between when to handout the snack and when to give away the full course meal. This part is really hard for me because I haven’t made too many fulltime commits myself (I’m more of a weekend lover….lol). If they haven’t given you a fulltime commit, then there’s no reason for them to get the fulltime benefits. Part-time commits only get you part times benefits. It’s not on me to tell you what you should consider part-time or fulltime benefits, but I will say fulltime should be an obvious upgrade from part-time. I’m just saying I don’t think person will ever commit fulltime if they’re getting fulltime benefits for their part-time loving.
Maybe it’s a little unfair for me to be given out so much information about how we really think, but I feel like most of this stuff women already know. So I guess I’m just confirming what you already know…These are JUST MY THOUGHTS. What do you think?

TOO INDEPENDENT

“I love her ‘cause she got her own….She don’t need mine, so she leaves mine alone. There ain’t nothin’ that’s more sexy… Than a girl that want, but don’t need me.” I need you to close your eyes and picture me singing that with a sexy voice ( Now that I got the ladies panties wet… let’s get down to business). The Urban dictionary defines an INDEPENDENT WOMEN as “a woman who pays her own bills, buy her own things, and does not allow a man to affect her stability or self-confidence. She supports herself entirely and is proud to be able to do so." Nowhere in that definition does it say she is way too sure of herself, extremely eager to express her opinion (and demolish yours); nor does it say she is an obnoxious, know-it-all pain in the ass. The problem with so many “TOO INDEPENDENT” women is that they want to control everything and reduce their men to being boys. They think they know the answer to everything Who, What, When, Where, and, Why. Men hate that sh!t with a passion.. Women that are TOO INDEPENDENT do not leave room for compromise. Or better, they see “compromise” as “he must change for me” or “he must adapt to my life style”. I think men will compromise, but if he sees that he is the only one making compromises, very soon he will start to question his role in the relationship. Seriously are we a companion, or an accessory? Ladies you have to allow your men to be men. The same way women are instinctively nurturers men are instinctively providers. It’s in a man’s nature to protect and provide, and when you don’t allow him to do that he starts to feel as if he’s not wanted or needed. Why in the hell would someone stick around where they’re not wanted or needed? Men aren’t intimidated by an INDEPENDENT WOMEN. So don’t think that’s the case… men are repelled by women who are unable to turn off her ego and attitude. These women are considered TOO INDEPENDENT.

Look ladies I’m not saying being Independent is a bad thing… Hell it's a great thing, but being TOO INDEPENDENT is the problem. I truly understand that black women (keep it 100 that’s who I’m talking about here) have a history of working 1 or 2 jobs to support themselves, and then come home to work a full time job as a mother (love you mom). I understand that there are some sorry ass dudes out there who have left you to raise kids and to take care of all of the bills on your own. I understand that due to these past events in history you feel like in order to get things done, you’ve had to rely upon yourself. As a result of this, you feel like you really don’t need a man. You have to get over that and let a real man be a man..
I will be totally honest with you. We need each other; hell men and women were made to be together. Look at the equipment God has blessed us with: it fits so perfectly together (well in most cases…lol). A strong man and a strong woman should make a powerful combination, but when a woman is TOO INDEPENDENT there’s no compromise or communication. That's when two strong people develop a power struggle and it drives them apart.

There is nothing wrong with being a successful, driven, INDEPENDENT woman. Ladies you should never put your life or career on hold because a man feels inferior to you, but at the same time there is no need to drive a good man away by being TOO INDEPENDENT. I’m going to end this with a verse from one of my favorite songs… This is the second verse on Musiq Soulchild’s last alum ONMYRADIO the song is called “SOMEONE”….
All that I hope for a friendship that´s so pure
A girl I can talk to bout
whatever is on my heart
A woman that needs me
That trust and believes me
That won’t take my kindness as
some kind of weakness
A woman who bares her soul who
is willing to let go
That wants me to lead her but
knows how to take control
And when I am feeling down
Cause things are going wrong
She fills me up and makes me feel strong
THERE ARE GOING TO BE TIMES WHEN A MAN MAY SLIP AND FALL, AND IT’S GOING TO TAKE A STRONG WOMAN TO HELP HIM UP…. CAN YOU BE THAT WOMAN?

These are JUST MY THOUGHTS.....